The instruction manual for the other mind

I find my living in the moment mind amongst the rubble of life by simply realizing what is happening right now…at this moment full stop. Using this mind certainly does not happen easily in our instant gratification world. Simply, it is the mind that must be used to heal the angst and the pain we allow to control our lives every second of the day.

Here’s the on-line instruction manual with directions for how to use this peaceful other mind: ask yourself what is happening right now…right this moment! Interpreted….If I’m not thinking and living the past while constantly being triggered to react to present moments by how I felt when…what someone said …. what someone did TO me… how I felt about the last conversation or the last person I encountered. Or the future…what I have to do today while at work…the stress of grocery shopping or meal preparation … how am I going to lose weight…OMG I have to do this or that. Nope…right now in this moment. In this once in a lifetime present moment, if the mental chatter stopped, if the stories we tell ourselves stopped, right now WITHOUT all of the fears we carry…with this breath I’m breathing is everything ok? Quite frankly, I am seldom able to live here in this moment all day long because, of course, I have figured out an excuse..I have 60 plus years of habitual thinking and over thinking to stop and like everyone else, I have that persistent, incessant talker sitting on my shoulder distracting me.

But what I have found is once I find the discipline to quiet my mind, I realize that my anxiety, my angst, my fears are not from things happening in the present. They are the thoughts of my past or fears of my perceived future. There is absolutely nothing I can do about the past…it’s done and gone unless I keep my version of it alive in my mind…and the future hasn’t happen…I really have no control of the future in spite of my obsessive thinking that I can control it.

A short exercise to bring my mind to a screeching halt is to STOP! Take 3 deep breaths and say to myself….3 things I see right now, 3 things I hear right now and reach out and touch three things I can feel right now. If I practice this every time I am aware of anxiety, irritation, dislike or fear, soon I realize that what is going on right this minute is just fine…is peaceful and this is where I’m going to live….but just like having a push ups goal, it takes practice.

namaste

4 thoughts on “The instruction manual for the other mind

  1. Oh wow. Kismet. I am reading this AFTER having just written a blog on my word for the year–and it’s all about staying in this very moment. Wishing you and I both the ability to master this in 2020!

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  2. Thanks for posting this. I need to work harder and more consistently on this. I seriously get hammered with worries about the future and a lot of that leads to all the things I should’ve done in the past. There was a time a couple of years ago I thought I had it all figured out but the last couple of years, especially the last one I’ve slipped back into that thinking that if I make this happen or that happen, I have some kind of control over the future and if I fail to make it happen, all the worst things possible will happen and I could’ve prevented it. The pressure of that is ridiculous. But when you’re obsessing on it, you don’t realize how ridiculous it is to think we have any control over anything….. I have to remember…. Thank you for sharing your journey!!!

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