The analogy of tears….

I was sharing some on-line information with him today (a texting thread with a family member along with You Tube videos).  I know why the subject matter had me emotional…it was the mixture of things that are close to my heart, the realization of the depth of my love and the empathy touched with the You tube video.  I was mildly embarrassed for myself because I could not control the tears that rolled down my cheeks.  I don’t understand why tears sometimes cause embarrassment.  I think that tears are as much of an emotional reaction as laughter that hurts the gut.

There are sadness tears that fall, say, funeral tears or just extreme loss and sadness tears.  I have no control over those tears medicated or unmedicated.  Once the dam breaks, I just have to see them through until they stop.

There are anger tears, for me, I have had several occasions where my reaction to extreme rage is tears.  I’ve always looked at those as safety tears.  Safety for the other person because it is my release and helps me resist personal violence.  Ya.  I’m talking about royally pissed off angry?

Sometimes there are those incredible laughter tears…for me, those are usually accompanied by the inability to breath and sore stomach muscles because it is just that funny.

And there are those tears like I had this morning.  Love tears?  Empathy tears?  Celebrating that I am alive and have deep feeling tears.

As I over analyzed this question, I think that I think these tears cause embarrassment because the observer feels sorry for me.  Thinks there is something wrong that they need to help heal or comfort.  Especially observers who do not understand their own emotions,

So my advice is for goodness sakes…cry your eyes out…sometimes it is just the energy release you may need.

Until next time….

5 thoughts on “The analogy of tears….

  1. I’m totally a crier. It’s true – so many don’t know how to react. I cry happy, sad, and everything in between. At commercials, during tv shows, during the news, reading articles, watching videos, in the middle of conversation…. I get it.

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  2. People do not know how to handle other people’s feelings. Codependent people, in particular, feel like they have to fix how you feel. And if they can’t, they are at a loss. They make it all about them when the person may just need a good cry. Not all feelings need to be fixed. Or maybe any.

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  3. What a lovely post. I have angry tears too – I wasn’t allowed to express anger as a child so I cried instead (because that was acceptable!)
    Love those empathy tears – they remind us that we are not islands and that we were meant to connect with others 💜💜

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  4. As a child whenever I cried I got yelled at. This probably explains why I hate to cry so very much.

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