My friends are like a variety pack of snack chips. They come in all sizes, age, ethnicity, gay, straight, conservative, liberal, atheist, spiritual and “religious” and gender. The friends that make up my short list…will call them the besties…for the most part, have similar beliefs that I do. I think it would be safe to say that the besties would not be on that list if we didn’t co-exist in the same galaxy. As the list lengthens out, friends tend to fall into other categories. For instance, friends that have different political views, or religious/spiritual views. If I know that we have differences of opinion, I avoid conversations that may migrate into these differences of opinion. I respect the fact that we are going to disagree and a war is not going to be won during one of these conversations.
Then there are the friends that I know superficially. Basically, I like something about them and enjoy their company for what ever reason…similar interest, good personality, nice teeth…and then they blow it up with a comment that tells me who they are….it can be an aggressive political or religious belief or I immediately label them as bigots. I generally back off from these people…I am still friendly in a social situation…but I avoid being in a social situation with them. WIth that being said. I also do not call them out or tell them I disagree with them. I’ve never had one of these confrontations work out well. I’ve found when it gets to this level of the relationship, I usually end up putting my anger in Drive and the rest is history. I’m a lot more articulate when I’m pissed!
I’ve recently been confronted with one of these people. I did not express my opinion other than to let them know I’m on the other side of the coin. But, I did not defend my position or defend the person(s) they were making fun of. And I feel guilty. Does my silence on the matter equal acceptance…or does every one of these conversations demand a response. Confrontation makes me uncomfortable in the negative/positive part of my soul so I normally just back away.
Is my inner dialogue of detesting what this person stands for enough? I really want to know what you think!
Until next time!