Aunt Frances….aka the bad niece

Aunt Frances is totally on my mind..in fact, thinking about blogging, I’ve been kind of focused on her so can’t even think of anything else to talk about.  He and I went to visit her at the hospital tonight.  She has obviously had a stroke…she didn’t act like she recognized either of us.  maybe Him.  She held his hand the entire time we were there and attempted to look at him but her eyes kept going sideways and upward.  The nurse said they thought she was possibly going to have another stroke…they haven’t been able to find the blockage with an MRI but the damage is obvious.  We went to Aunt Frances’ apt before we went to the hospital because her busy body neighbor said I needed to sign some checks.  While I was there she mentioned several times how mad Aunt Frances was because I put mom in hospice…hinted that she was changing her will…after a discussion about where Aunt Frances would be going, I said I thought a hospice house would be much better than hospice in a nursing home…busybodybitch said…Well your aunt wouldn’t want to hear that after you sent your mother there.  In an email to family when I got home, I said…my mother was upset with me because I didn’t tell her that my dad was going to die.  My Aunt thinks I killed my mother because she thinks I had something to do with her going to hospice..it was the doctor and she agreed…and Aunt Frances is so upset with me that she refused to let the doctor or hospital call to let me know she was in there for 3 weeks…I’m her next of kin.  I’m all she has…now this nosy neighbor who lives next door has the audacity to repeat stories to my face about how my aunt does nothing but whine about what a bad niece I am.  I am pretty positive she and I are going to tangle before this is over and I have no doubt who will win.  She certainly monitored my activities while at Aunt Frances’ apartment..I almost felt like she was in charge and I had better wipe my shoes before I entered or I would be in trouble.  I’m sick to death of the excuse that they are old and I should take that into consideration.  My mother and my aunt have always had something missing in their personalities…getting old just made it worse…I’m sick to death of the excuses for bad behavior.  If I weren’t so angry, perhaps I would be devastated…these are horrible charges to lay on anyone…especially the adult child everyone is supposed to love….hmmmm

6 thoughts on “Aunt Frances….aka the bad niece

  1. @tracy – I can’t believe anyone would or could call you an asshole.  You just never know about people.

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  2. Nina you were so nice not to bitch slap that nosy neighbor.  I’m not sure I would have had that much self control. I’m sorry Nina.  I think you are a wonderful person and I know everyone else here does, too.  Try not to let that neighbor get you down.

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  3. You are a strong person and you WILL get through this…….and…..shame on me for saying this…….Screw that old bitch neighbor!

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  4. Debs comment cracked me up. Did I ever tell you my old lady story?  I was driving through the little strip mall by my house and there was a little old lady, dressed in little old lady clothes.  I swear it was a little flowered dress, and she was wearing a hat.  She was walking across the driveway and I thought she must not have heard me because she walked right out in front of me. So, I stopped (duh..as opposed to running her over I guess) and smiled at her as she walked in front of my Blazer.  And when she got by the drivers window she looked over at my smiling face and snarled, “asshole”.  This has been a lesson in my life to never judge by a preconceived notion!  Nasty is nasty and age doesn’t improve it.  You know you’re doing the best thing for the right reasons, and little old neighbor lady means nothing.  Shoo her away.

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  5. Just remember Nina, the world sees what you do and the Lord know why you do it.  People tend to take it out on the ones they love the most.  You are an amazing person know matter what….be strong and hang in there…

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  6. Oh nina, I’m sorry.  That’s so crappy!  It’s always such a shock to me when old people are assholes.  Try not to let it get you down.  You know, and those who really love you know that you’re not a heinous person.  I hope you are able to not feel badly and to keep the forward momentum you’ve had going for the past couple of months.  ryc…thanks

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