Who doesn’t occasionally wish they had done something different in their past. It creeps up on me every now and then. My one solid regret is not continuing my education…I always come back to it. Mostly it centers around what I could have done with my life if I had gotten a degree..I could have…. (fill in the blank).
A Facebook post this morning took me in deeper – especially when I read a lot of the comments. It was a blackboard with the words “What advice would you give your 18-year-old self? On the surface, I agreed with a lot of the responses…but as I really started thinking about it – what would I really change. Because if I changed something, I wouldn’t be the person I am today and would not have had the great experiences I did have. Yes, I know, that person would probably be happy and living a fulfilled life too…but what if?
Starting when I was 18 and officially making my own decisions what if I had gone on to college and obtained that coveted degree. I’m sure I would never have met Gena and the best thing she EVER did for me was introducing me to him….I wouldn’t have the same daughters..I wouldn’t have had the same amazing career I had and I probably would not be retired at 58. There would have been another life with other friends and other families and other REGRETS and other DISAPPOINTMENTS and LAUGHTER and LOVE. But theoretically it would have been the same basic play with just different actors and actresses. Logically, I know this to be true…but it hit me in a much deeper spot and it may have been one of those “AHA” moments in my life that will change the way I think about things.
I didn’t do things different…I am me and I have what I have…move on and love the life you have built on the decisions you made and the experiences you had.
Until next time…..
It takes a long time to figure out that you are who you should be…I’ve always tried to live so I don’t have regrets…but I think that is impossible because every decision we make will have a lasting impact on who we are up the road. Regrets do nothing but set up a road block!
I think you are exactly right. You are wonderful as you are and any changes to the formula might also have lead to a different Nina.