I woke up thinking I had been dreaming about pregnant animals today. It may have been pigs..but thankfully it was one of those dreams that dissolved nearly before I could get my eyes open. I also woke up in the middle of the night not being able to figure out where I was sleeping and where exactly the bedroom door was. Haven’t had those kind of unnerving thoughts since I worked thru the pain of my dad dying back in the early 2000’s. I think it has to do with the incredible amount of things on my mind and I can’t seem to close any of the doors…it has put me quite out of sorts during the awake part of my days too. It irritated me the way he opened the garage door last night…are you with me here.
@Skanickadee got the wheels turning this morning with her blog on marriage name changing. She is very traditional and a realist and her way often grounds me when I’m on a tangent. She brought up the topic of women changing their last name when they marry. This has been probably the biggest feminist issue with me of all time…well, that and gender equality and same pay issues and my lack of desire to stay barefoot, pregnant in the kitchen…If I had it to do all over again…I would not have changed my last name. I think it is utterly ridiculous that women have to change their name. THEIR NAME! Their identity. I remember when I was younger…okay…more recently too. ..the discussion about if so-and-so doesn’t have a boy, the name will die off with this generation…in fact @Tracy mentioned that this morning also. WHAT. We need boys? It only puts another check in the blue column of why girls are second class citizens right from birth. Hyphenated names – makes the most sense….but…I wish there were more sides to this coin..because daily, I deal with hyphenated names…first generation – great..but what happens when the girl marries…to stick with my take on it – if Green-Brown is my daughter’s maiden name, does she hyphenate again? Because using my theory…Green-Brown is her name – her identity – her heritage…dropping one of her last names to hyphenate with another name just presents the same problem? Theoretically – it could go on and on and on and that would be stupid and inconvenient the first time you have to sign up for something with the government. The other argument…if you don’t take the husband’s name…what last name do the children use…if they use the father’s last name which is probably what would happen, then the mother has a different last name. So…like everything else..until a solution is found, I guess I will have to conform. Oh wait…I already did.
I have other opinions today, but I totally lost myself in the last paragraph…so
Until next time….