Facebook has reminded me of a very minor irritation that ocassionally surfaces for no particular reason…that minor irritation involves taking the man’s name when you marry.  I did it, and if I had it to do all over again, I would probably do it…but why..just because that is the way it has always been done…hmmm

I notice Facebook user females many times list their names out like Nina Green Brown…yes my maiden name was Green…I don’t do that because it looks and sounds ridiculous…I even know that some women replace their given “middle” name with their maiden name…I like that idea but once again I wouldn’t do it because it looks and sounds ridiculous. 

So…however old you are when you get married, prior to that date you have been known as one name and after that date you are now known as something else and have to expend lots of energy to get your name changed on proper documents…now does this sound like the right thing to do for reasonably sane women I ask you.  Hyphenating last names has always irritated me because of the job I’m in…do you know how difficult it is to find Nina Green-Brown in the driver’s license files in the other 49 states…okay..damn near impossible.  It is difficult enough to deal with hispanic names and hyphens but they at least make sense.

The big question here is why does a woman have to change her name when she gets married…can you see us telling a man that you have been Joe Blow for 32 years; but not anymore bucko – now we are going to change your name to Joe Doe…ya that almost makes me laugh at the stress it would cause them. 

A minister couple in town at the local presbyterian church took each other’s names and hyphenated it..they served the same congregation which called them by their first names…that didn’t work because they got a divorce and went their separate ways…she stayed, he went…but it is kind of gratifying that he should have as much headache changing his name back as she does changing  her name back.

I don’t expect my little blog here on Xanga is going to change the way things are done, but by golly, I got my two cents in.  By the way.  Yes…my maiden name was Green…but to go one step further, my mother, Helen had Brown for a maiden name…can you imagine if she would have hypenated and then I hypenated…I would be Nina Susan Brown-Green-Green-Brown.  Joe Blow-Doe has nothing to bitch about!!

Until next time