One thing that I didn’t realize when I was young, was the cycles one goes thru in their life.  I speak solely of myself here but I find in general, just from listening to conversation, that this may be universal with the difference being the individual changes of cycles.  Most recently, I find myself feeling almost personally selfish…I don’t feel the need to socialize just to socialize…the people I want to be with are the people I am with and the people that I used to have to psych myself up to be around just aren’t in my life anymore.  Selfish…is that the word or may I categorize it as quality time.  Along those same lines, I occasionally wonder if something is wrong with me because I’m so content to stay home…I don’t need to be doing something all of the time..being with people…being in groups…I want to be home doing what I want to do until I decide I want to go somewhere.  Selfish…is that the word or may I categorize it as content with myself….I love to reconnect with folks on facebook..I love to read their posts every day and see what they are up to.  I would not be able to keep up with all of the happenings if I had to call and talk to everyone on the phone everyday…I just wouldn’t do it.  Someone told me recently that she thought I was hiding behind my computer…I gave her opinion some thought and I know this is not true.  I am just in a different place than she is in.  I love making connections with my new and old friends on a daily basis on the computer…

Never before have I been comfortable to pursue my hobbies…I have a lot of interests and I am having fun.  I have friends like me, I have friends more reclusive than me and I have friends who are still social butterflys.  As long as you are living the dream..whose business is it anyway….

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  1. Again! Ditto Skanickadee!  I think as life rolls along we decide what makes us content along the way – and if someone else wants to call it selfish, whatever.  W and I are quite happy to be out of the go here go there go go go just to go crowd we used to hang with.  No one ever just sat on their couch and watched a game.  I could go on and on with inane examples.  I like to go where I like to go, and not go when I dont’ want to.  I think the rest of my family is finally coming around to the fact that I am just not a social butterfly and I just like to “be”.  It’s all about giving yourself the permission to be who you are and like what that’s all about.   


  2. Good for you.  What you say makes total sense to me.


  3. @skanickadee – That’s right!  I hear it all the time about the computer, even from my husband.  I can’t stand just sitting and watching television.  I mean, don’t get me wrong, I love to watch television.  I watch a TON of television, but I also always have a computer next to me.  I’ll play solitaire, I’ll chat a little, I’ll read my email when it comes in, whatever.  Some people knit.And as for the leaving the house thing.   I spent years at home.  I just really only liked being at home.  I worked alot and it was just so nice to be at home where I was happy.  Now I’m just starting to get out more, but I do it on my terms.  Where I want to go, with the people I want to go with, and for the reasons I want to have.  Very selfish of me, and that’s just fine.


  4. I have two sils that never stop for a moment.  They always have something planned and never just sit at home.  If they are home they have people over.  For some reason that always made me feel bad, like I should be doing more.  But you know what, I can’t, it just wears me out.  Craig and I were just talking about this and we decided it is a good thing we are at the same level concerning spending time with other people.I bet the person who said you are hiding behind your computer isn’t a computer person?  I have found that noncomputer people just don’t get it.  And they put out this message that spending time on the computer is weird, nonproductive, a waste of time and blah, blah, blah.  But who should tell me how I spend my hobby time?Life is short!  You need to spend your time in ways that you enjoy and make you happy!


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