Weakening your opponent

Are we just harming ourselves?  I’m not sure yet if I believe in the karma theory but I know in the past from my mental flapping, I’ve entertained lots of negative hopes for those who have been on the other side of my personal battle line.  It is starting to sink in that you are what you think…in other words…negative attitudes and gossip or bad mouthing others is nothing more than a show of your own personal insecurity.  Continually trying to drag someone else down with your words and attempting to incite YOUR jealousies in others really only feeds your own negative agenda.  ESpecially if your opponent is wearing the shield of love and their own personal acceptance and self love.  It’s unflattering and harmful only to the person doing the bashing!

We have no control over how we were treated and loved or not loved as children.  We have no control over how other people treat us.  But we do have total control how we receive the information and more importantly our reaction to negativity.  After a conversation with a friend today AND my own personal experience, I’m convinced sometimes we must just cut ties with those people who hurt us with their words, actions and intentions.  As a people pleaser, it is often hard to stop the cycle of trying to force people to love us and respect us.  For the most part, these relationships bring us pain, sadness and personal retreat in order to save ourselves!  These relationships are not worth the angst experienced in your mind and in your heart!

Until next time….

Six Months 4 Days

This blog has been taking up space in my head for 4 days now.  I’ve been off antidepressants for 6 months and now 4 days.  

  • I no longer feel drugged.  I’m able to function in the real world like everyone else.
  • Now when I look back at those 2 weeks of Hell going cold turkey, I have no regrets.  Kind of like childbirth!
  • I don’t sleep as well…I think I sleep as deep…just not as long.  I seldom get 8 hours now.
  • The anxiety is now manageable.  I have been meditating every day.  It is as important to me as my morning coffee.
  • I finally am able to feel emotion…things make me laugh and I can tear up nearly on demand.
  • My thoughts seem to be more rational.  I credit meditation with opening my subconscious to assist.
  • I have had some moments of irrational anger…or let’s say I’m no longer medicated so I feel the anger.

Every day is a lesson to be learned.  I missed out on a lot using pharmaceuticals for a long as I did 15 years.  I wish a doctor had given me encouragement to try real life!

It is an empowering experience.  

Until next time…..

When we don’t feel happy

3 years ago, we moved away from everything we have ever known which includes some besties.  we moved 4 hours south to a house I love, moving out of the boonies and into a neighborhood which I love (for the most part).  We made this decision because I had to have a new start and get away from the negativity and anxiety in my life and afforded us the opportunity to live close to and love fully our grandchildren.  I do not regret the decision.  With that being said, I miss family celebrations on holidays and birthdays.  It is something I could change if I wanted to take the initiative…and if I were more self aware of how I was going to feel.

With that in mind….I spent my birthday, Mother’s Day and Memorial Day as if it was just any other day in my week.  This week thinking about my daughters birthday coming up, I started feeling some depression settling in.  I decided to try essential oils…I totally am committed to the value of using essential oils for healing…but I was skeptical that just breathing them in could seriously have any impact.  I had tried using a diffuser and I love the scents but I decided to try what I’ve been reading.  I put do terra essential oils…lavender, bergamot, ylang ylang and Roman chamomile in my hands and took whiffs then I rub the mixture on the bottom of my feet and put the mixture in my diffuser.  Within 10 minutes I felt the funk beginning to lift.  I did the same thing this morning.  The change is remarkable.  If you are suffering in your own funk or dealing with your own depression, I encourage you to give it a try!

And…a friend of mine posted This on FB this morning.  A good read!

Until next time…..

Another life lesson

Somewhere in the back of my mind, I’ve always thought that if I work hard, strive to remove the negative, have a positive mindset and do good things that eventually life will be perfect.  Life is not going to fit my model of perfect.  It is impossible.  Life is life and life happens!  It’s the way we interpret the complications and our mindset that determine if we swim or if we sink!

I think a lot has to do with our personality and the input we have received from childhood into adulthood.

This has been a tough week for me.  Midweek I struggled with the negative.  At one point, while lying in bed, I  felt my anxiety taking over.  I was overwhelmed and there was nothing I could mentally do about any of them; but, I continued to jump from one to the other at mach speed until I was overcome…absolutely overwhelmed.  Then a moment of clarity….STOP.  This is what you always do.  Stop and center yourself.  For 2 minutes just breath in and out….focus on nothing else but your breathing.  It’s not easy and I wasn’t completely successful or was I.  The thoughts kept fighting to get in.  But I felt my jaw relax….and I knew that it wasn’t going to be perfect but this was working.  Right at this moment it is working.  This did not take the multiple problems away but I  knew it was going to work for me right at that moment…..and right now at this moment is all I have.

Until next time…..

What’s going on now?

For those following my anti-depressant journey….tomorrow will be two full weeks since my last anti depressant pill.  I hope the way I feel now means clear sailing ahead.  Last week, I had occasional head movement.  I didn’t keep track because they were so rare!  I know that my brain is probably still adjusting but I’m pretty unaware.  Last week, I had a few episodes of ear ringing…more like tornado whooshing-through type ringing.  My newest inner body change is my temperature.  I have been hot for 20 years.  I know why in general but questioned the hot flashes were continuing and I was not getting any relief.  Well, now I’m cold.  ALL OF THE  TIME.  I’m not more cold when I’m outside….the problem is being cold when I’m inside.  I’ve taken to wearing my 3.99 Walmart fleece hoody 24/7.  I have added a quilt to my side of the bed and now sleep under a sheet and 3 quilts and often my hoody.  My latest Dr Nina diagnosis is the anti depressants had my inner thermostat out of whack and this is just an adjustment.  That and I’m drinking 3 quarts of water a day.  My anxiety has returned several times….the anxiety that comes from nothing I’m aware of.  I’m using breathing and inner refusal strength to keep it in check.  Seems to be working so far!  The other night I was berating myself during one of these anxiety “things” thinking what happens when I actually have something to be anxious about .  STOP….BREATH…right this moment I’ve got this. 

Until next time…..

I can’t make this stuff up!

Today is Day 4 of being off antidepressants.  After the day on Saturday, I chose to just cold turkey the rest of the detox.  I have been still doing mostly fluids but have added in some boiled eggs, saltine crackers and bananas to slowly get my intestinal tract ready to accept more food.  Last night, Katy made me a baked chicken breast with some spices and a scant amount of spinach and tomatoes.  I tolerated it really well….and I swear it was the best chicken breast ever.  Why were we at Kate’s in Iowa last night you might ask?

He and I and Frannie drove up to Iowa Monday morning  for what we thought was going to be just a turnaround trip.  The radiology department had  called saying they needed a couple more pictures after my mammogram a few weeks ago.  Just a couple more pictures they said and maybe an ultrasound….yes definitely an ultrasound….then the doctor comes in and tells me there seems to be a papilloma aka small wart behind the nipple and we need to do a biopsy in the morning.

WHAT?

So at 9am, I was numbed, ultrasounded again, had 3 specimens removed, a titanium seed introduced to mark the work, another mammogram and released.  I laughed a little harder than warranted when the mammo tech told me I could go…she walked me to the hallway…said, do you see the door by those windows…you can exit there….then RUN as fast as you can!  I will never forget this woman for realizing I needed a humor charge for what I had been through!

We are finally back home!  Results from the biopsy should be available tomorrow.  I am virtually painless, no head zings and very little movement feeling in my brain.  I’m better today than yesterday and forward progress and thankfulness is what it is about!

Until next time…..

Someday when you are a little older

I will tell you about my trip to the ER.

The high points less than 12 hours after the event:

Anti depressant withdrawal…introducing 10 mg of citalapram into my system to ease the cymbalta withdrawal.

A liquid only diet for 3 days to treat diverticulitis.

Introducing one 500 mg of the antibiotic Cipro

Introducing various other herbal suppplements and essential oils to assist with withdrawal.

Copious amounts of sugar in juices.  These are probably not copious amounts to sugar addicts but to someone who has been off sugar for the better part of 2 years….ya

What happened:

Oh darn I wish  I could remember the technical name but I passed out, copious amounts of sweating, while laying on the floor, vomited many, many times into Frannies bowl which was handy.  vomited is probably too nice a word.  I f-Ing dry heaved into frannies bowl because there was nothing in my stomach.  Everything.  I mean everything was in slow motion.  I was incapable of staying present as I would float away, I was reminded innumerable times to breath in and out in the ambulance….I didn’t even feel the large stick they inserted in my vein for anti nausea medication.  When the severe panic attacks hit, it was only HIM who sat by me in the emergency room keeping me focused on my breathing, bringing me back again and again from total freak outs.  Finally the saline  going into my arm brought me around.  I felt liquid in my dry parched throat, my sinus started to flow and I came back to life.

Through it all, I decided I am even more determined to beat this monster!  Oh and by the way, headed back to Des Moines tomorrow for more views on my mammogram.  Over the last 5 years, this will be the third time I’ve been called back for MORE VIEWS!!!!  

It’s important to recognize that I have been able to bring my 30 year habit of cursing as a dispatcher back to my vocabulary!

Until next time…..